| Hi, Carolyn: I’m a husband who is acutely aware that my wife is shouldering far more of the mental load than either of us wants to be the case. Our challenge is, often, if things aren’t done her way, then they’re “wrong,” which I find demotivating. And I’m not talking the weaponized incompetence of putting delicates on high in the dryer; I’m talking about how groceries are put away in the fridge, etc. We’re working on it through direct communication, but any advice on how to push past my “I can’t do anything right” and her “I’m doing too much” dynamic? — Mental-Loaded |
