| Starting this week, Carolyn Hax publishes on a new schedule: columns on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday, with Nick Galifianakis illustrations rather than cartoons. Reader advice stays on Wednesday and the live chat on Friday. Adapted from an online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I saw my sister recently after we’d taken a break of several months. We’d had an argument when I was staying at her house, at her request, to help with some projects, and she kept postponing the projects to hang out with her friends. We finally arranged a getaway together to get back on track. On our trip, after a few drinks, she divulged that during our “break,” she had taken herself on the dream vacation we had often discussed. She knows full well my yearning to see that city has been the driving force in my budgeting, hoarding of leave at work and reading/planning for the past couple of years. I had been hopeful it could take place this upcoming year when I have a landmark birthday. After our tiff at her house, she cashed in all her rewards points and went without me, and admits it was spiteful. I managed to control myself after a disbelieving, “You went to X without me?” but felt shell-shocked. Every day on this recent getaway, she would twist the knife, too, saying, “Oh, when I was in X I went to a concert at (famous venue),” or, “Oh, when I was in X I went to (famous museum).” The disloyalty is staggering. I made it through our trip without a serious blow-up but felt really sad inside, and her revelation has numbed my interest in reconciling; we used to vacation together frequently and be in touch several times a week. She sees her trip not as a betrayal but as “Well, you didn’t get in touch about the holiday, so I made my own plans.” She didn’t get in touch with me, either, let alone say she’d found this great deal related to my dream trip! I really don’t know how to go forward with this. In the past few years, I have applied most of my precious vacation time and considerable money — at her request, not pushing myself in — to help her recover from her divorce, manage some health problems and fix up her house. Clearly, I don’t get any consideration in return. What’s next? — Numb | 
