Hi iza,​​​​​​​ 

Codependency has been surrounding me lately.

(I mean… I guess it always is. But this feels different.)

It’s a pattern I thought I’d graduated from—but here it is again, revealing itself in new ways.

First, I read Elizabeth Gilbert’s beautifully honest new memoir, All the Way to the River. I’d be lying if I said I couldn’t relate just a little.

The morning after I read that chapter, I attended the most brilliant codependency workshop while I was at Onsite doing their Living Centered Program. (10/10 recommend for rapid repatterning and deep healing.)

Then the Egypt pilgrimage didn’t just push my buttons. It pushed a lot of people’s buttons. People whose energy fields I could have easily hopped into to try to save them from their experiences. But I didn’t. Because it wasn’t my job.

And I’ve got a few people I love very deeply staring family patterns of addiction and codependency square in the eye for the first time.

I’m also reading Robin Wall Kimmerer’s newer book, The Serviceberry. (She also wrote Braiding Sweetgrass, which changed my life.)

The book is about interdependence—an economy of reciprocity that feels like an exhale.

In these times when news of systems failing to care for life is pervasive, I’ve been thinking about something:

What’s the difference between generosity and codependency?

Where’s the line between caring for our people and our planet vs. abandoning ourselves by getting lost in the sauce of the suffering of those around us to our own detriment?

At first reading, the line might feel so obvious.

One is sane. One is not.

But for those of us who developed the skills of reading the room and only behaving in ways that would keep those around us happy, the line can get real blurry real fast.

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