Opinion: Why I had to kill family dinner
And you can stop, too, the author writes.
From The Times
December 9, 2025

For 18 years, Erin White’s family ate dinner together almost every night because she wanted to, and because the world told her she had to, she said. Then, three years ago, she just stopped.

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And you can stop, too, White writes.

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