Modern Love: Your 35 (New! Crowdsourced!) Dating Rules

February 13, 2026, 1:01 p.m. Eastern time

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Your 35 (New! Crowdsourced!) Dating Rules

On Valentine’s Day 31 years ago, the book “The Rules” provided 35 decidedly retro “rules” for dating. We thought it was time for a refresh, so we asked people what rules they rely on today. Here are the best.

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