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It’s the Valentine’s Press! This week, Madeleine Kearns has Two Drinks with Dr. Paul McHugh, the man who was saying back in the ’70s that gender dysphoria shouldn’t be treated with hormones and surgery. Also, we’ve compiled a definitive list of the best Winter Olympics moments so far. And Suzy Weiss asks: Should we be worried about all these flamboyant resignation letters from AI companies? But first. . .
It’s no secret that here at The Free Press, we love love. We’re freaked out by the well-documented decline of dating and sex and marriage and relationships. So for Valentine’s Day, we’ve gone all out, as a reminder that love is still happening, and still worth it.
First up, a personal essay from Kara Kennedy, who was born at the end of the 20th century and therefore raised to believe that you shouldn’t rush into commitment. But in her mid-20s, she met a man on another continent, and within a year she had not only moved across an ocean to be with him but had married him and was pregnant.
“People sometimes ask if I would recommend doing things this way—meeting a man twice before getting in his car and never leaving,” she writes. “I remind them that at no point did this feel reckless or brave, but just the obvious thing to do.”
Next, another personal story, about what it’s like to be separated from the people you love more than anything on Earth. Two years ago, former politician P.G. Sittenfeld had to spend Valentine’s Day in prison after being convicted of campaign-finance crimes.
“During my time in custody, I almost never used my scarce monthly allotment of phone minutes—which came out to around 15 per day—to call home early in the morning,” he writes. He knew his wife Sarah would be scrambling to get their two sons, aged 1 and 4, out of bed and fed. “But since it was Valentine’s Day and I woke up in prison instead of at home next to my wife, I rang Sarah at 7 a.m.”
But what if you haven’t found love yet? What are you supposed to do? There’s an almost scientific school of thought on the internet that says you have to work hard to reach the apex of desirability; you have to go to the gym, intermittently fast, and even consider plastic surgery if you want to become a “ten” instead of a “two.”
That’s not true, says Paul Eastwick, a psychology professor at the University of California, Davis, who has a new book out that’s a more optimistic take on the science of human attraction. River Page spoke to him to get the lowdown.
Instead of obsessing about your abs, why not write an ad? Because—drumroll please—Free Press Cupid is back! We launched our old-school matchmaking service a few years ago and are delighted to say it resulted in the first ever official Free Press marriage this summer. The bride, Polina Fradkin, tells the whole story in her piece—which includes details of how you, too, can connect to an eligible Free Press reader. Get ready to fall in love! And Happy Valentine’s Day.
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