Well hello, Iza,
II want to give you a real tool today...one we actually use inside Boundary Bootcamp.
It might explain something...
Do you ever feel like you get in your own way? Staying in a relationship you know isn't right. Not leaving the job that, you know, sucks. Saying you'll set the boundary this weekend, and the weekend comes and goes.
There may be something this pattern is doing for you, even while it's costing you.
So why is it so hard to stop?
For many of the women I work with, the honest answers sound like:
If I never say no, I never have to feel the guilt.
If I never ask, I never risk hearing no.
If I stay the one who handles everything, I get to stay needed.
If I keep waiting for them to just notice, I never have to have the conversation.
This makes you human...your patterns have been protecting you from feelings nobody ever taught you how to handle.
But here's the question underneath the question:
Could I actually handle the guilt, the no, the conversation...with the right tools and support?
In my experience? Yes.
I think you can handle more than your patterns have taught you to believe.
This is Week 6 material inside Boundary Bootcamp.
We don't just find your patterns...we figure out what they've been protecting you from.
Then we build the skills to handle the guilt, the discomfort, the hard conversations...so you don't need the old protection anymore.
Because seeing the pattern is one thing.
Knowing what to do when every part of you wants to fall back into it? That's the work.
If this one question moved something in you, that's what we spend eight weeks learning together.
Module 1 drops August 26th. Join us here.
