Modern Love: My Struggle to Stop Loving Him

February 21, 2025, 1:01 p.m. Eastern time

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My Struggle to Stop Loving Him

On a post-divorce bicycle ride through Paris with her ex-husband, a woman weighs the costs of divorce.

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Why Gossiping Could Help Your Love Life

Kelsey McKinney, author of the new book “You Didn’t Hear This From Me: (Mostly) True Notes on Gossip,” talks about the joys and problems gossiping has brought to her relationships.

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Looking at a Stranger and Seeing Myself

A DNA match revealed my birth mother. Our story began with sacrifice and ended with a rapturous hello.

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