| Carolyn Hax is away. The following first appeared Feb. 6 and 27, 2011. Hi, Carolyn: I’m a proud daddy of two little ones who are 5 and 3. My own father abandoned my family when my sister and I were about the same age my kids are now. I barely remember him, but it has taken my mom and sister years of therapy, fights and other drama to get over it. As everyone in my family now knows, I am separating from my wife and will soon be moving in with the love of my life. In NO WAY does this mean I will not continue to be a full-time father to my children, but my sister doesn’t see it that way. The other day, she accused me (in tears) of being our father — of leaving my family to find my own happiness. This is both inaccurate and unfair, but it has me feeling horrible. How do I clear my conscience and ensure that my sister actually is wrong? — Va. | 
