Losing trust with your manager—whether through a careless comment, misstep, or emotional outburst—can damage your reputation and working relationship. But it doesn’t have to define your career. What matters most is how you respond and rebuild. Here’s how to take responsibility and move forward.
Start with reflection, not reaction. Don’t rush to apologize. Pause and unpack what led to the breakdown. What were you feeling? Why? How might your boss perceive it? Clarity helps you own the behavior, not just the mistake.
Address the issue quickly. Don’t wait for your boss to bring it up. Request a brief conversation within 24 to 48 hours. A simple “Do you have a few minutes?” signals maturity and urgency.
Own your part without justifying it. Take responsibility clearly and succinctly. Focus on the impact, not the backstory. Avoid defensiveness or blame, and don’t over-explain.
Propose a path forward. After apologizing, shift the focus. Offer a clear plan to communicate better moving forward and invite your boss’s input. This shows initiative and a willingness to meaningfully improve, not just patch things up.
Rebuild with consistency. Trust takes time. Follow through with consistent, professional behavior. Show up prepared, stay emotionally steady, and prioritize the relationship instead of just the outcome. |