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Plus, if a couple splits, who controls the embryos?
Love Letter
May 29, 2026

Erin Millender had already spent several years trying in vitro fertilization. Now in her mid-40s, she knew she was running out of time. She decided to try it one last time. That was when the doctor delivered the news: Her husband had revoked consent, and she could no longer make a baby with his DNA.

Click on the link below to learn more about the contentious new debate that’s dividing courts and couples across the country. You’ll also find links to an interview with Olivia Rodrigo about her latest album and a Modern Love essay on why men shouldn’t put photos of cats in their dating profiles.

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